I broke my own rule of never saying “I love you” first! EEEK!

Posted on: June 8, 2015


Have you 
ever felt like you’re ready for the next step, but terrified to take it?

Can you tell it’s your time to play at a new level, but at the same time, you’re scared that you’re not ready?

Feeling torn between being worried you’ll slide backward if something doesn’t change, but fearful of what it’ll take to move forward?

When I told my fiancé I loved him for the first time,
I broke my own rule of NEVER saying “I love you” first.

I was terrified! The same fears occupied my mind, but I finally got that NOT taking the risk was exactly what was keeping me from being where I wanted to be… joyfully and unapologetically in love!

That moment taught me a lot about who I wanted to be as a businesswoman.

Looking back, while I absolutely honor my journey, there are a whole list of things I tell my clients to do MUCH sooner than I did in my business, whether they feel ready or not, and no matter how scary it might seem. I’d have done them sooner too, knowing what I know now!

  • Hire my COACH! Holy moly I didn’t even know what I was capable of until she pulled it out of me!
  • Hire a VA! I discovered that I spent 2-3 hours/week scheduling my clients. I don’t know about you, but give me an extra 8-12 hours a month and I can make a pretty awesome impact with my clients, generate some fantastic content, get shi* done like WHOA, and make a hell of a lot of money.
  • Get a Housekeeper
  • Get an Accountant and a Bookkeeper
  • Hire a freakin’ Attorney to write a legit coaching contract instead of one I copied and pasted myself or got for free online. (You know what I’m talking about)

These choices (that for me felt like HUGE risks at the time) opened up a whole world to me that I couldn’t have known was possible until I stepped into the space that they created.

It was never just a factor of having more time, although that in itself was worth it’s weight in gold based on the money I SAVED and MADE by being smarter about how I spent my time! 

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Even more powerful, was how different I felt when someone else was doing my scheduling for me. I actually had the time to focus on getting new clients intend of picking up my house and being stressed about how little time I had for profitable business tasks! 

I finally realized it was cheaper for me to pay someone $120/week to clean my house and free up 20 hours a month to get one or two high level clients and make between $5K – $12K than get all judgy and pretend that treating my business as a hobby was noble and having a housekeeper was high maintenance.

Let’s get real about it shall we. Your business is not a hobby, and pretending you can do it all does not a profitable business make.

We’re all here because we are passionate about making a difference and we LOVE helping other people. BUT, if your hands are tied with a to do list of things that have nothing to do with creating enough freedom and resources to actually be of some good to your clients, then I’ve got news for you. It ain’t gonna happen.

Not tomorrow. Not next week. Not ever.

You can handle what I’m saying, so don’t go beating yourself up if your biz isn’t at a stage where you can’t implement every single thing that I named above or even ANY of them. But, listen in to the wisest part of you, and ask yourself…

What is the next step you’re being called to take, that you might be putting off?

Act from your vision, and remind yourself of why you can’t afford NOT to take it.

You’ve got this!

Believing in you,


P.S. When I told Rob I loved him, he said, “I love you too! I’ve been waiting to tell you for 3 months!” 

I so exhausted myself from the whole thing that I fell asleep for 2 hours and woke up to him sitting by my side with a dozen white roses. 

Glad I didn’t put that one off any longer. <3

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