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The secret behind my best year yet in 2018

Posted on: December 12, 2018

We’re just closing out the year, and after a big fall launch season, I’m takin’ it easy and spending some time in Mexico this week.

I always slow down A LOT at the end of the year to take lots of R&R time. It gives me extra space to reflect and think.

Which lead me to some discoveries about 2018 that aren’t necessarily new, but that have become more obvious to me during my current chapter of growth.

I’ve noticed that with every new chapter in life and business, humans tend to get excited, and feel super enthusiastic about the honeymoon period when it’s a fresh clean slate and everything’s just begun.

In my program U2U, it may not be Jan 1st, but it sure feels like the new year when the program begins!

In fact, I tend to see a pattern of wanting to rush to the end and be on step 12 instead of starting at the beginning and remembering that slow and steady wins the race.

For so long, and still sometimes, this is a challenge of mine. When I’ve fallen victim to this pattern, it left me feeling tired, even exhausted, when a project was finished.

Isn’t it so easy in life to want to get to the end and say “I’m done!” Sometimes when I look at my to do list, I fantasize about plopping down on the couch to watch The Great British Baking Show with my feet up and nothing to do.

Don’t get me wrong, it’s nice.

But I can handle just a bit before that aching to grow, or create creeps back in, and the ideas start coming.

I’ve had to really focus in on prioritizing my JOURNEY instead of trying to always look ahead at the final destination. In fact, looking ahead is the very thing that blinds us to all of the miracles and opportunities that are staring us in the face in any current moment.

I think life keeps a perfect set of books. What we aren’t willing to take the time and learn now in our life lessons, we’ll run into down the road, sooner or later. And that may be the best blessing I think I’m really getting the hang of going into this New Year.

2018 has been the year that I really did lean back energetically and felt that not only was I telling myself, “Mel, you don’t have to work harder to grow your business and impact and reach” but I actually LIVED it and EXPERIENCED it.

It took putting some boundaries in place.

When I said my family and health are a priority, I didn’t just say it, I meant it. That meant saying no to things that compromised those priorities.

When I said I’ll take time off, or I that I refused to work on weekends or evenings, or even every weekday sometimes, I’m wasn’t messin’ around.

And most of all, I’ve been saying for years now that I’m more committed to the journey and the process than the result, and while I’ve known for so long that it reaps WAY more magnificent results, it took a bit of courage to allow myself to sit still, and be silent, especially when I just didn’t know the answer in both business and life.

I have to say, there’s something REAL about slowing down to speed up.

I’m alive today, so I want to be grateful that I’m breathing and I’m walking and moving; grateful that I’m connecting with humans in a way that makes my heart explode. I’m thankful that I’ve made it this far.

I know it’s not a step by step.

I get that it’s not really measurable or scientific sounding.

But I truly believe that trusting our journeys while we commit to showing up every day, religiously, and trusting ourselves to know a hell of a lot of the answers, might really be where it’s at.

I don’t have a formula for you today.

But I do hope that there’s something here for you to make your week, and maybe this upcoming year even brighter, more joyful, and more PRESENT.

All we have is now, and there’s SO much possibility in each moment isn’t there?

To slowing down and being present, to speed up,

xoxo,

Mel

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